Monday, November 13, 2017

All Things Adoption

"Defend the weak and fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed" Psalm 82:3

Although I have been blogging MIA for a LONG time... Ben and I have been discussing how much of a platform and information hub this blog can be for our newest RHODE of becoming parents thru adoption.  It is my intention to post more often and share all the incredible things we have been taught thus far. I'll start with an introduction into our journey...

Ben and I have always discussed and mutually understood that adoption to build our family was something we desired. We didn't know what that would like or when. Last summer we knew God was beginning to lay into our hearts that it was time to start a family. We began looking into adoption as an option, how it would work, what type we thought would be best and eventually had our first call with a consulting agency in May of this year.
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After our call, we knew this was exactly what God was leading us to pursue. It is easy to say that God has called you to something and feel that certainty but difficult to explain how even when that happens the fear and doubts can still be paralyzing. As trivial and vain as it sounds the financial mountain associated with adopting is one that battles me constantly. It makes no sense how we will make this work but we are constantly reminded that nothing we have is only what the Lord has given us. It is so simple when we look at how all we even call "ours" is from the blessings and provisions we have that did not come from us at all. So we took our first steps.

Our home study started in August and finished last week. There was a literal hurricane in the middle of it but other than the normal loads of paperwork, doctors visits, and interviews went smooth and easy. We are hoping to receive our completed report in the next few weeks. We decided that our adoption will be for a domestic infant, meaning a baby from the US (typically being matched before birth and allowing us to bring home baby from the hospital!).  Our consulting company has our application and should be contacting us in the next few weeks to begin our journey towards "going live".

All of these terms are also intimidating and unfamiliar to most, as they were to us, so I will expand. A home study is a report from an agency or social worker summarizing legal documents, education, and ability to be parents. This is one part of the process that includes paperwork on paperwork (financial statements, essay questions, marriage, health, birth, licensure certifications, etc.). Home studies are required for all adoptions and foster care situations. Ours will meet universal standards providing it applicable to situations across the entire US.

A consulting firm is a bridge between adoptive parents and prospective birth mothers and agencies. Adoption agencies typically serve both birth mothers and adoptive parents as individual clients but consulting agencies bridge the gap between all parties. They also work with agencies across the entirety of the US vs. specific states only. The firm we have chosen has a great reputation for quick matches (almost always under a year) and being an adoptive parent and birth mother advocate. It is also unique in that they require counseling for all birth mothers pre and post adoption (which is HUGE in providing healing and love to them!). The evidence of Gods loved being poured into the birth families that work with this firm is unreal and their service has blown us away.

"Going Live" will mean that our profile is actively being shown to prospective birth parents, enabling us to be eligible for matching. Matching means that we have been chosen by a birth mother to be the parents to her baby and we accepted. Once this happens we will have more information regarding due date, gender, location for birth, etc.

This post could go on for days so I will end this one here! There's more to come! And for more updates on our progress or if God is leading you to join us in this journey-- you can follow our fundraising sight!

My next post will be FAQ! Post, FM message, or text me any questions you have! This is a journey everyone reading is a part of!!

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